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FIND YOUR
THERAPIST.

HER vetted these. Not the algorithm, not a sponsored list. Platforms that work for people navigating relationship trauma, high-conflict situations, and starting over.

HER is not a licensed mental health professional. These recommendations are based on independent evaluation of features, pricing, and user experience — not clinical assessment. If you are in immediate crisis, please go to the Crisis Support page or call 988. This page contains affiliate links — if you sign up through HER's link, HER may earn a commission at no additional cost to you.

Online Therapy

What HER Actually Recommends

These aren't the most advertised. They're the ones with the cleaner track records, better matching, and fewer data concerns.

Online Therapy
Online-Therapy.com
CBT-based therapy with worksheets, journaling, and weekly therapist sessions. Built-in tools between sessions make progress trackable. Strong for anxiety, relationship trauma, and divorce recovery. 50% off first month frequently available.
Best for: Structured healing after a high-conflict relationship →
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Online Therapy
Calmerry
Flexible therapy with text and video options. Fast matching — typically under 1 hour. Therapists specialize in trauma, DV recovery, and co-parenting stress. No long-term commitment required. Transparent pricing with no hidden fees.
Best for: Fast start, flexible format, trauma-informed care →
Start with Calmerry →
Online Therapy
Talkspace
Text, audio, and video therapy. Insurance accepted on many plans — worth checking yours before paying out of pocket. Therapists with relationship trauma specialties available. Larger provider network than most platforms.
Best for: Insurance users, busy schedules →
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Also Available
BetterHelp
Large platform with broad therapist selection. Note: BetterHelp settled a 2023 FTC complaint over sharing user mental health data with Facebook and Snapchat for advertising. HER recommends reviewing their current privacy policy before signing up. Some users report difficulty cancelling.
HER lists this for completeness. It's not our top pick. Read the FTC case →
Visit BetterHelp →
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Co-Parenting Tools

Document Everything. Court-Admissible.

If you're in a high-conflict co-parenting situation, a documented communication platform isn't optional — it's protection. HER has used both.

Co-Parenting App
OurFamilyWizard
The gold standard for high-conflict co-parenting. All messages, calendar entries, and expense records are timestamped, uneditable, and court-admissible. ToneMeter flags aggressive language before you send. Widely accepted by family courts nationwide.
Best for: High-conflict situations, court documentation →
Start OurFamilyWizard →
Co-Parenting App
TalkingParents
Free tier available — every message is permanently recorded and court-admissible. Simpler interface than OFW, lower cost, solid for moderate-conflict situations. Printable records for court use. A strong starting point if you're just establishing documentation habits.
Best for: Budget-conscious, starting to document →
Start Free with TalkingParents →

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Affiliate disclosure: Links on this page are affiliate links. If you sign up through HER's link, Check HER First may earn a commission — at no additional cost to you. HER independently evaluated each platform. Compensation does not affect rankings; BetterHelp is listed last specifically because of documented privacy concerns despite having an affiliate relationship. HER is not a licensed therapist, attorney, or mental health professional. Content is for informational purposes only.